Child sexual abuse: How to talk to children about being safe

Hearing about child abuse in trusted places such as childcare centres is every parent’s worst nightmare.

So, how can we talk to our kids about it and help them stay safe?

While it’s not always possible to prevent abuse – and it’s never the victim’s responsibility – there are practical, age-appropriate ways to help children trust their instincts and feel confident to speak up.

These conversations don’t have to be frightening. They’re about teaching kids body safety, boundaries and trust in a calm, shame-free way.

Here’s what parents and carers can do right now and some resources that might help.

Use real names

Many of us grew up in families where private parts were given nicknames or not mentioned at all. Basic body functions were treated as embarrassing or joked about. But when we flinch or make jokes, we teach our children these topics shouldn’t be spoken about.

Instead, we need to speak about bodies in a clear, matter-of-fact way.

Research shows one of the simplest and most effective protective factors for children is teaching them correct names for their genitals – penis, vulva, vagina, anus, bottom – without shame or secrecy.

Using the right words gives children the language to ask questions and tell a trusted adult if something feels wrong.

We can use everyday moments, such as...

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